Tim Field, who unfortunately left us at a very early age, was himself targeted but left behind a tremendous wealth of information on his site which I highly recommend to anyone who for.ex., is/have been abused at work, have a child who is bullied, is/have been abused in a relationship. On his site you will get answers to questions like, What is bullying? Why me? As well as information about the Serial Bully. More Here
“Bullies” are individuals with some type of personality disorder most have no conscience and can feel no empathy which is why they are extremely mean spirited. A psychopath will do just about anything to “break” the person they target, they will stalk, get others involved in stalking and harassing the “victim”, spread rumors (they can be very convincing as they believe their own lies), they will try to kill you or have someone else do the “dirty work”, nothing is “off limit” and anything goes when it comes to a “serial bully”. Here
Once you understand you will also see a pattern appear and it is very much the same in every “bully”. The “smearcampain” is of course used to isolate the “target”, to make him/her feel alone thus making him/her more vulnerable. This is the phase when the “victim” feels totally helpless and bewildered which makes him/her fall into a state of despair (depression) where thoughts of suicide are not uncommon. Sadly some follow through as they see no other way out of their personal hell. (See PTSD) Here Please, if you have been targeted do not act on such thoughts, there is “a light at the end of the tunnel” and your life will become normal again, educating yorself about these individuals is a step in the right direction.
Having been through it myself, I know bullying can be prevented. However, the fact that “bullies” always try to “bully” their way to the top results in having “bullies” in upper management and sitting as CEO’s and other positions of power. Having individuals with no conscience and no empathy and who do enjoy seeing others suffer is at the root of this “problem” which is why it still persists in schools, the workplace and elsewhere.
The sooner you learn how these individuals “operate” the better you can protect yourself, mentally as well as physically. My own contact with Tim Field came about when I was to translate his book into Swedish; unfortunately, it never happened as no publishers were willing to take on the project. Some probably due to the fact that they were afraid of being targeted themselves. This in turn led me to set up my own site in Swedish to help those targeted to understand and thus be able to heal from the trauma. For more information on books, research, PTSD and more you Click Here (Most of the links in English are found at the bottom of just about every “page”.)
Due to my site I do get targeted every so often, the latest “scam” does apparently involve impersonating me in hope of isolating me. (Same old story) Psychopaths do not like to be “discovered”, that makes the psychopath mad, very mad. You can think of the psychopath as being a mean spirited kid in an adult body, they are emotionally stunted and thus throw temper tantrums, plot evil little deeds of revenge and other things a child would do whose mommy and daddy says “no” to whatever it is that the child desires.
In order to “isolate” the “victim” the psychopath projects his/her own “faults”/perverse activities, the most common projections seem to involve calling someone a pedophile, an alcoholic, gay/lesbian, someone who enjoys hard core porno or some other deviant activity. Be very wary of an individual who insinuate and/or spread mean spirited rumors about others and/or will proclaim to be on a “morally higher ground”, you are most likely dealing with a psychopath. The psychopath project his/her own “faults”/perverse activities onto others so not to be “discovered”, he/she always play the “blame game”, it wasn’t me. More on projection, Here
“If you know the person he is telling you something strange about, compare the accusation with your own observations. A narcissist will have ignored that person’s real faults and smeared one of his or her virtues as a vice! And, if you know the narcissist, you’ll find the narcissist himself is guilty of the very thing he’s accusing this other person of.”
Vandalizes Others’ Images More Here (Please note that Sam Vaknin featured on this site is a self proclaimed narcissist)
I think Tim Field said it best when he said, “The main lesson I have learnt is that when dealing with a sociopath, the normal rules of etiquette do not apply. You are dealing with someone who has no empathy, no conscience, no remorse, and no guilt…It is a completely different mindset. Words like ‘predator’ and ‘evil’ are often used.” The Serial Bully Here
If you have been targeted see it for what it is, you have unfortunately run in to a very disordered individual. Learn as much as you can as fast as you can in order to protect yourself. Feeling down? Take a walk – it does wonders!
This is not an ad, just added as I personally like the message. Sadly, most of our “leaders” talk and talk but never Walk the talk Here
Finally, here is a news item of interest from the Danish channel DR2 which of course will make you ask, who are the real terrorists? “Niels Harrit and 8 other scientists found nano-thermite in the dust from the World Trade Center.“ Here
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