If you have been or you know of someone who has been targeted by a “bully”, this is vital information. To be accused of something that is not true is devastating for the “target”, it sends him/her into a state of helplessness of not knowing who to trust or where to turn for help as the individual has no idea who the “bully” has spread the “nasty rumors” to. Depression sets in and it is not unusual for the “target” to have thoughts of suicide as the “target” see no other way out of his/her personal “hell”, some sadly go through with it. Others may become physically ill as negative stress can have devastating effects on the body, some research listed below. It is hard to understand for those who have not been “bullied” to really understand how someone else (the “bully”) can be that evil, well, enter the psychopath who has no conscience, no empathy and enjoy hurting others. The latest study; Bullies may enjoy seeing others in pain: Brain scans show disruption in natural empathetic response. Here (May, is an understatement)
“Bullies project their inadequacies, shortcomings, behaviours etc on to other people to avoid facing up to their inadequacy and doing something about it (learning about oneself can be painful), and to distract and divert attention away from themselves and their inadequacies. Projection is achieved through blame, criticism and allegation; once you realise this, every criticism, allegation etc that the bully makes about their target is actually an admission or revelation about themselves. This knowledge can be used to perceive the bully’s own misdemeanours; for instance, when the allegations are of financial or sexual impropriety, it is likely that the bully has committed these acts; when the bully makes an allegation of abuse (such allegations tend to be vague and non-specific), it is likely to be the bully who has committed the abuse. When the bully makes allegations of, say, “cowardice” or “negative attitude” it is the bully who is a coward or has a negative attitude.
In these circumstances, the bully has to understand that if specious and insubstantive allegations are made, the bully will also be investigated.
When the symptoms of psychiatric injury become apparent to others, most bullies will play the Mental Health Trap, claiming their target is “mentally ill” or “mentally unstable” or has a “mental health problem”. It is more likely that this allegation is a projection of the bully’s own mental health problems. If this trap is being used on you, assert “projection” as a defence against disciplinary action or as part of your legal proceedings.
It is a key identifying feature of a person with a personality disorder or psychopathic personality that, when called to account, they will accuse the person who is unmasking them of being the one with the personality disorder or psychopathic personality from which they (the bully) suffer.”
Source; Bully on line Here
Having worked with “bullying” for more than six years, the top three projections seem to be; The target is accused of;
1. being a pedophile/interested in children and/or teenagers
2. interested in/obsessed with pornography
3. being an alcoholic
The list can, of course, be made much longer, a bit of caution – Beware of individuals spreading rumors about others behind their back, psychopaths are cowards, know that they are telling lies, enjoy hurting others and very afraid of being found out of who they really are, thus everything takes place in the “shadows”/behind the “targets” back. To remember; the “bully” is telling everyone about him/herself (thoughts and actions) what he/she has done, is doing or is about to do.
Some research of interest concerning stress;
Organisational justice and change in justice as predictors of employee health: the Whitehall II study Here
Psychiatric Distress and Symptoms of PTSD among Victims of Bullying at Work Here
Stress Management: Techniques for preventing and easing stress, Harvard Health Publications, Harvard Medical School (December, 2007)
Understanding The Role Of Stress In Just About Everything. ScienceDaily (Jan. 8, 2008) Here
Gateway to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Information. Here
Psychological distress, major depressive disorder, and risk of stroke. Here
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